Grief is a universal experience but some of us get stuck in it
Today I want to share with you a story of one of the most inspiring and profound transformations I’ve ever witnessed, from the depths of grief to awakening truth and freedom.
I met Chantelle 4 years after the worst moment of her life.
She was now a widow, a mother, and —though she didn't know it yet— a woman ready to find her way back to herself.
What she brought into our first session is something I won't forget.
She told me a part of her missed how she felt at the beginning stages of her grief when her husband died; the way she used to feel things in great extremes.
She describes feeling,
"deep sorrow, heartache, excruciating pain - but also the purest forms of joy. The sun on my face would light my soul on fire and the sound of my girls laughing would mend the shattered pieces of my heart back together with a temporary glitter-filled glue."
But as the years passed, her grief spiraled deeper. She wandered further and further inward until she was completely lost, surrounded by darkness.
Those moments of joy began to disappear.
She brought these concerns to her family doctor, who offered antidepressants. Intuitively, she said no. She didn't want to numb what she was feeling. But as the darkness kept growing, she came very close to changing her mind.
That's when she found me.
We slowly peeled back the layers over the course of 12 weeks — first creating safety by regulating her nervous system, then uncovering the patterns shaped by her past, and clearing the noise from outside influences.
Through the somatic work, she received a crystal clear intuitive messages from her body about a health concern. She took action immediately. From that moment on, her health, mental clarity and confidence in her truth began to transform.
In her own words:
"I'm working on me now. Uncovering the sunshine I know that is buried in my soul.
My sleep is deep for the first time in years!
It’s been hard/wild/scary/rewarding to uncover deep-rooted trauma from 10+ years ago that I’ve held onto/buried within me. But when we process recent trauma (like giving my husband CPR/watching him die) I’m not sure we can fully heal unless we unravel it all.
I have felt the shift I have longed for. Like the sun sneaking through the storm starting to settle. Like coming up for air after not realizing how long you’d been under, holding your breath.
Sometimes we don't know the kind of help we need or where to find it. I'm glad Suse Silva came into my life.
12 weeks together. That’s enough time to settle and unsettle. To dig, stir and reset.
The breathwork felt groundbreaking. The trauma release felt necessary.
The connection felt like a hug that lasts just long enough.
Grateful for Suse for becoming such a safe space for all the soul work.
Working with Suse has been unmatched. Her somatic and breathwork woven into our time together felt truly transformative. I highly recommend — trust that you’re ready, you will not regret the work. Endlessly grateful to have crossed paths with Suse.”
Her words still move me. And so does the transformation I continue to witness as she applies what she gained from our time together.
This is exactly why I do what I do.
I am incredibly passionate about this work. And, I am beyond grateful to serve and support others through their darkest moments, helping them see the light again.
If something in Chantelle's story felt familiar, if you recognize that darkness or that longing for a shift, I'd love to talk.
This is the work. And you don't have to keep doing it alone.